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my teenaged 3 year old...
Nov. 27th, 2006 07:58 amYesterday Casper and I got in a fight. We were trying to get ready for all 4 of us to go on a walk, to burn off some energy (Casper) and return our videos (me). Casper was not cooperating, being very rude and sassy, and I got fed up and told her she couldn't come, that I would take Dillo and go on the walk and she could stay home with Daddy. She was very upset, of course.
This morning mr. flea told me that after we left she cried for a while and he was having a talk with her about rudeness once she calmed down and she said, "My mom doesn't understand me."
I swear to god, I hardly believe him, but how could he make that shit up?
I wish I had more energy to deal with Casper. I do things that I know are not good parenting - like getting mad and yelling, like being inconsistent out of laziness - mostly because I am so tired. But I think that even if I was getting all the sleep in the world this child could still out-energy me. As it is, she can freakin' out-smart me already.
Sunday's New York Times magazine has an interesting article about school performance for underpriviledged children, and mentions a study that suggested that children in middle-class homes are better prepared for successful lives in our society because their parents talk to them a lot, debate and bargain and so forth, whereas children in low income homes are much more likely to be raised strictly, punished, etc. This means that the low income children are often better behaved as kids, but grow up with fewer verbal skills and less assertiveness and problem-solving skills. (I am probably oversimplifying and of course didn't read the actual study, only the summary of it.)
My kid is going to be able to solve every freakin' problem ever invented at this rate.
This morning mr. flea told me that after we left she cried for a while and he was having a talk with her about rudeness once she calmed down and she said, "My mom doesn't understand me."
I swear to god, I hardly believe him, but how could he make that shit up?
I wish I had more energy to deal with Casper. I do things that I know are not good parenting - like getting mad and yelling, like being inconsistent out of laziness - mostly because I am so tired. But I think that even if I was getting all the sleep in the world this child could still out-energy me. As it is, she can freakin' out-smart me already.
Sunday's New York Times magazine has an interesting article about school performance for underpriviledged children, and mentions a study that suggested that children in middle-class homes are better prepared for successful lives in our society because their parents talk to them a lot, debate and bargain and so forth, whereas children in low income homes are much more likely to be raised strictly, punished, etc. This means that the low income children are often better behaved as kids, but grow up with fewer verbal skills and less assertiveness and problem-solving skills. (I am probably oversimplifying and of course didn't read the actual study, only the summary of it.)
My kid is going to be able to solve every freakin' problem ever invented at this rate.
