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true love & peer pressure
Dec. 10th, 2008 11:50 amI am nursing Dillo in his bed; Casper is brushing her teeth, flossing (she doesn't actually floss, but we have some berry-flavored floss that she lives to chew on; it's a start), and "cleaning" the bathroom (=rearranging the things on the sink top).
Casper comes in to say, in tones of distress, "What if my old friend Logan was my true love? Now I don't see him any more!"
I explained that if Logan was her true love, she would probably run into him later in her life, such as possibly when she was a grownup. We also discussed her possibly calling him on the phone (although what would they say to each other?)
We also talked all the way home from school about being "cool." There is a kid at after school named River who is cool, and he got Heelys (these sneakers with wheels inside, so they're semi-rollerskates) for his birthday this week. Casper asked when she would be old enough for Heelys (she didn't know the name, but described them very well) because she wanted to be cool. I asked if River fell down a lot, and she said yes, and I asked if it was actually cool to fall down? We talked about how cool isn't about the stuff you own, but it comes from knowing who you are and feeling confident. She mentioned a commercial ("Hannah has high tops" is the jingle; she was singing it all night) where a girl walks down the hall at school and everyone is like, (quoting Casper here) "Oh, she is precious!" because of her cool shoes.
Often before bed, especially if we've watched Avatar, we talk about Prince Zuko, and why he keeps switching sides. He mystifies her; I have been trying to explain that Zuko is figuring out who he is inside, and learning to listen to himself and not other people.
Lot of ideas about identity here!
Casper comes in to say, in tones of distress, "What if my old friend Logan was my true love? Now I don't see him any more!"
I explained that if Logan was her true love, she would probably run into him later in her life, such as possibly when she was a grownup. We also discussed her possibly calling him on the phone (although what would they say to each other?)
We also talked all the way home from school about being "cool." There is a kid at after school named River who is cool, and he got Heelys (these sneakers with wheels inside, so they're semi-rollerskates) for his birthday this week. Casper asked when she would be old enough for Heelys (she didn't know the name, but described them very well) because she wanted to be cool. I asked if River fell down a lot, and she said yes, and I asked if it was actually cool to fall down? We talked about how cool isn't about the stuff you own, but it comes from knowing who you are and feeling confident. She mentioned a commercial ("Hannah has high tops" is the jingle; she was singing it all night) where a girl walks down the hall at school and everyone is like, (quoting Casper here) "Oh, she is precious!" because of her cool shoes.
Often before bed, especially if we've watched Avatar, we talk about Prince Zuko, and why he keeps switching sides. He mystifies her; I have been trying to explain that Zuko is figuring out who he is inside, and learning to listen to himself and not other people.
Lot of ideas about identity here!