things writing my last post and reading the reponses made me realize

[flea]

1. I want RF Mom to like me. There are practical reasons for this - I work with her every day - and impratical ones - I want to be approved of by someone who is very popular and well-liked.
2. I am wary of corporate child care. On a practical level, we should ask to tour the facility, which I haven't done in 2 years. On an emotional/social instinct level, I'm not sure if anything can be done about this. I do have a strong feeling that a family-like setting is best for the care of children under 4/5. Corporate day care centers feel like warehousing to me although I know they aren't.
3. I wonder if I would be able to leave my 3 month old in a room with 7 other babies under one year old and 2 adults? If I wouldn't, we might as well just hire someone to care for Casper and hypothetical future sib in our home - the cost is about the same, since 2 kids in a center is $$.
4. Yeah, opting in is the obvious choice. The real dilemma is what to do if we are offered the spot.

Comments

[katie-m.livejournal.com]

RE Casper, and not thinking about potential #2, would it be possible to try the center and see how she likes it? I'm thinking of a friend of mine whose son is almost three; she tried him in a Montessori setting earlier this year and then pulled him after a couple of months for basically the same reason you gave--too classlike for a kid who was two, and it wasn't fitting him well. She's essentially a stay-at-home mom, though, so she didn't have to worry as much about what she'd do if they did choose to pull him out.

[loligo.livejournal.com]

Just how corporate is the daycare center? Since it's university-sponsored, are there lots of student workers? Our U. has two centers -- one has an entirely professional staff, the other has paid staff and professors supervising Education majors who are doing internships. We chose the second one, because the students are just so excited and energetic about their work. There's nothing warehouse-like about it at all. (The student teachers do rotate every 8 weeks, though, and some families don't like that rate of turnover, but we've never found it to be a problem.)

[ste-noni.livejournal.com]

oops, I hit post/delete too quickly. That's what I get for trying to do to much at the same time.

I think this is what i said before. I have the same problem, or I will in a few more months. I had always assumed we would get a nanny, but lately I've been thinking that I'm not sure I will ever be able to hire another person who I trust enough to care for my kid(s). OTOH, I share all your concerns about daycare as well. But at least with daycare, there is more than one adult around.

It's a hard decision either way. Both have serious advantages and disadvantages.

[burrell.livejournal.com]

Oddly enough, my personal experience with corporate daycare has led to the opposite conclusions, at least in our case. Franny's bonded very well with the caregivers in the Infant center (which is HUGE and cares for 20 or so infants from 6 weeks to 18 months). She was very well loved and very well socialized. Isaac also seems really happy there. The Toddler classes at daycare are also terrific. Lots of play & unstructured activities, and lots of life skills training (eating with spoons and forks, potty training, dressing, clean up, saying "sorry", etc).

However the Pre-School set up seems lacking. Too unstructured, no curriculum of any sort, not enough opportunity for the kids to bond to the teachers, and most telling, lots of complaints from the parents of the Pre-School kids. I am not sure when I will pull Franny out (but not before next Fall), but I can see that this daycare is a better fit for the wee ones than for the older kids. I will probably keep Isaac in through Toddlers, however, because I've been so happy with Franny's experience.