*sigh* Yes, too true. Even with a fantastic, loving, and helpful spouse, I get the feeling somehow that I'm working a 16 hour day and he's working a 12 hour day. Not so much fun that I can't feel I can discuss it with him, either.
I'm often frustrated by his need for more sleep than I need to function. His requests for a nap will sometimes throw me off guard, during the week, when I feel like I've been chasing the boy around all day and he's only been with him for an hour and a half (and most of that occurs while Owen is in his high chair for dinner) and yet, Christopher will go for an hour's nap and by the time he wakes up, Owen's fallen asleep for the night.
Mostly, what happens is that Christopher sleeps until 8:00 a.m., while I get up with the baby at 6:00 a.m. Christopher gets home at 6:30 p.m. and the baby's in bed by 8:00.
I spend at least another two or three hours getting things done around the house that I can't accomplish in the presence of a toddler (like cleaning toilets, etc.) while Christopher watches t.v. until he's ready to go to bed. So Christopher's day ends far earlier than mine--he simply doesn't worry about mundane, household chores the way I do.
I need to learn to start flat out asking, rather than taking on all of these things myself, I realize. But that's hard. In my mind, the housework, etc. falls under my purview since I opted to quit working outside the home.
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Date: 2005-05-28 06:59 am (UTC)*sigh* Yes, too true. Even with a fantastic, loving, and helpful spouse, I get the feeling somehow that I'm working a 16 hour day and he's working a 12 hour day. Not so much fun that I can't feel I can discuss it with him, either.
I'm often frustrated by his need for more sleep than I need to function. His requests for a nap will sometimes throw me off guard, during the week, when I feel like I've been chasing the boy around all day and he's only been with him for an hour and a half (and most of that occurs while Owen is in his high chair for dinner) and yet, Christopher will go for an hour's nap and by the time he wakes up, Owen's fallen asleep for the night.
Mostly, what happens is that Christopher sleeps until 8:00 a.m., while I get up with the baby at 6:00 a.m. Christopher gets home at 6:30 p.m. and the baby's in bed by 8:00.
I spend at least another two or three hours getting things done around the house that I can't accomplish in the presence of a toddler (like cleaning toilets, etc.) while Christopher watches t.v. until he's ready to go to bed. So Christopher's day ends far earlier than mine--he simply doesn't worry about mundane, household chores the way I do.
I need to learn to start flat out asking, rather than taking on all of these things myself, I realize. But that's hard. In my mind, the housework, etc. falls under my purview since I opted to quit working outside the home.