I found the book Setting Limits With Your Strong-Willed Child helpful for thinking about life with Sys. She is something of a scientist, figuring out where the boundaries are by running full-tilt into them. The book helped me recognize this was a learning style and not an exercise in making her mother nuts, which calmed me down. Like any parenting book, I pick and choose what interests me.
It might help at home but I don't know what to do about school because it isn't your interactions with her that are at issue. Sys' teacher uses a time out chair for the kids combined with a calm, firm manner. At first, Sys spent awhile on the chair in any given episode; now she doesn't need to sit long before she can calmly apologize and move on. We probably aren't as calm and consistent with her as we should be.
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Date: 2007-12-12 08:32 pm (UTC)It might help at home but I don't know what to do about school because it isn't your interactions with her that are at issue. Sys' teacher uses a time out chair for the kids combined with a calm, firm manner. At first, Sys spent awhile on the chair in any given episode; now she doesn't need to sit long before she can calmly apologize and move on. We probably aren't as calm and consistent with her as we should be.