When I was in 3rd grade, I had problems similar to Casper's. Of course, she is much younger than third grade, but my mother's solution was to give me a little card with each day of the week on it. At the end of each day, the teacher would give me a sticker on the card if I'd behaved that day. If I didn't get the sticker, there were consequences at home (nothing dire, but maybe I couldn't play with my friends that evening or watch TV or something like that). Like Casper, I was mostly interested in testing boundaries and (I have no idea if Casper is like this) I had a really hard time when things were different (i.e substitute teacher) and not the routine.
As for being too lax or whatever, I really can't say. In our house (and of course, Ellie is 2.5) we don't negotiate. I try very hard to choose the areas I think are important (safety, respect, etc.) and I make the rules in those areas. If she doesn't follow them, I try distraction, or telling her we will do that later (and then actually do it later) and then we do time out with the very occasional spanking (*very* occasional because I don't think it's very effective.)
I do probably 85% of the supervising/disciplining in our house because Joe works long hours.
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Date: 2007-12-12 06:33 pm (UTC)As for being too lax or whatever, I really can't say. In our house (and of course, Ellie is 2.5) we don't negotiate. I try very hard to choose the areas I think are important (safety, respect, etc.) and I make the rules in those areas. If she doesn't follow them, I try distraction, or telling her we will do that later (and then actually do it later) and then we do time out with the very occasional spanking (*very* occasional because I don't think it's very effective.)
I do probably 85% of the supervising/disciplining in our house because Joe works long hours.