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potty training
May. 31st, 2006 03:51 pmIt's been most of a month at this point, I think, and if anything, we're behind where we were at a week into the potty training. I'm frustrated, and trying to be patient but not succeeding as often as I'd like.
Casper wears panties during the day most of the time. She wears pull-ups for nap at school I think, and a proper diaper for overnight. We have accidents at least daily. Casper doesn't seem to mind being wet; for example, she peed right after we got off the bus yesterday and was pretty soaked, down to her sandals, but couldn't be induced to hustle any faster to get home and change. She hardly ever volunteers that she needs to pee, and if asked will mostly say she doesn't need to go, so we're still plopping her on the toilet every hour or so, often over her objections. Sometimes she won't pee when put on the toilet to try, but will pee in her pants 10 minutes later, in enough volume that clearly she could have produced while on the potty. M&Ms are not motivational any more, alas. (Well, they're motivating me okay, but that's not the point.)
She is fairly fastidious about poop; she'll tell us when she's pooping if she's wearing panties, and we rush to the toilet but almost never make it in time. If she can, she saves pooping for times she's wearing a pull-up or diaper. So she has some control, but not as much as for peeing.
I think basically she has the physical skills required for being potty trained, but doesn't really care much about actually doing it at this point. She is pleased when we praise her, and we don't yell or act dramatically disappointed when she has accidents; we're more like, "Ooops! Well, let's try and listen to your body next time. We pee in the potty, not in panties." Occasionally she's upset about accidents, but sometimes seems not to care at all.
How do we motivate her? Is it a question of time? I'm getting frustrated with her, and I don't want to get to the point where my frustration is constantly clear to her, and make this a power game. But, two accident poops and one pee in two hours can make a woman frustrated. Especially when I'm pretty sure she *could* do this - at least more consistently than she is now - if she tried/cared.
Casper wears panties during the day most of the time. She wears pull-ups for nap at school I think, and a proper diaper for overnight. We have accidents at least daily. Casper doesn't seem to mind being wet; for example, she peed right after we got off the bus yesterday and was pretty soaked, down to her sandals, but couldn't be induced to hustle any faster to get home and change. She hardly ever volunteers that she needs to pee, and if asked will mostly say she doesn't need to go, so we're still plopping her on the toilet every hour or so, often over her objections. Sometimes she won't pee when put on the toilet to try, but will pee in her pants 10 minutes later, in enough volume that clearly she could have produced while on the potty. M&Ms are not motivational any more, alas. (Well, they're motivating me okay, but that's not the point.)
She is fairly fastidious about poop; she'll tell us when she's pooping if she's wearing panties, and we rush to the toilet but almost never make it in time. If she can, she saves pooping for times she's wearing a pull-up or diaper. So she has some control, but not as much as for peeing.
I think basically she has the physical skills required for being potty trained, but doesn't really care much about actually doing it at this point. She is pleased when we praise her, and we don't yell or act dramatically disappointed when she has accidents; we're more like, "Ooops! Well, let's try and listen to your body next time. We pee in the potty, not in panties." Occasionally she's upset about accidents, but sometimes seems not to care at all.
How do we motivate her? Is it a question of time? I'm getting frustrated with her, and I don't want to get to the point where my frustration is constantly clear to her, and make this a power game. But, two accident poops and one pee in two hours can make a woman frustrated. Especially when I'm pretty sure she *could* do this - at least more consistently than she is now - if she tried/cared.