Tongue girl

Casper is working on some new teeth - I can see both upper lateral incisors through the skin, and she's all about the tongue last night and today, so I expect an appearance soon. No sign of the other front tooth, though, so she'll look pretty funny if they come in fast!

Books Casper likes best right now: Hug, Goodnight Gorilla, Hairy MacLary from Donaldson's Dairy. She doesn't seem very interested in the funny language of Hairy MacLary, but loves the picture of the tomcat the band of dogs runs into ("Scarface Claw.") She pulls non-board books off the shelf now (Corduroy, Slow Loris, A Picture for Harold's Room), and I read them but she loses interest after a few pages and crawls around the room to play with other things. She needs more board books and baby-short books - birthday coming soon will remedy I expect.

I am the bad mommy at La Leche League

Meeting tonight, and I'm conflicted about it. I really like several of the women at the meeting. I love seeing the kids and have watched them grow up over the past 8 months. But I''m getting tired of being the bad mommy at La Leche League. I'm the one who, when the leader (whom I respect and even like, but we are on completely different planets in any way you can imagine - she is a stay-at-home, homeschooling, Christian mother) says something like, "Well, women are more nurturing" says "Actually, I think nurturing isn't so much gender-defined as personality-defined. I know my husband is more nurturing by nature than me." I think many people at the meeting agree with me, but I'm the one who says it. I'm also the only one who is willing to be honest about how hard it can be to start breastfeeding; how it can hurt. It's not all rosy pictures and soothing quiet intimate moments - sometimes it's a yelling kid and blisters. And it gets wearing, being the truth-speaker. I wish La Leche League was only about breastfeeding support and not about "a way of mothering." I am not their kind of mother - but I want the community of breastfeeding mothers. And I want to work at making the organization - or at least this meeting - a place where women who work full time can be welcome, a place where women who make compromises and aren't anybody's version of the perfect mother can still have community support for their breastfeeding. So I speak out. But boy is it making me tired.