flea | lazy

I've been feeling bad about myself and my life lately, and it boils down to: I'm lazy. I do just what's necessary to keep life functioning, and that's about it. And then I'm bored, because I don't have anything to do. This applies to: work, both at my current job and within my overall career (hahahahaha) arc; housekeeping and domestic life (even fun things like cooking dinner); social life (i.e. we have none); and parenting, about which I feel the most guilty of course. The path of least resistance is no way to raise a child, and it's no example to set her either.

And I feel like I should do something about the lazy, but I'm so, um, tired.

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Are you sure the yardstick you're comparing yourself to is a fair one? I'm really serious about that -- given that you have a good, solid marriage, and a great child, you're already doing far far better than many in the Life Sweepstakes. (Asking yourself if you'd apply the same exact standards to another woman of your approximate age and family obligations can be helpful....)

From where I sit, you look quite accomplished!

I think that North Americans set the bar of personal success far too high -- we can't possibly all be glamourous high-powered size four professionals with three perfectly educated & stimulated children. Meeting the daily round of life with occasional grace seems like a perfectly acceptable standard to me.

But all that said, if you've got a bad case of ennui, then perhaps you do need more challenges. Only you can say.

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