report from seattle; fuckfuckfuck

[flea]

mr. flea called from Seattle to say that there was a big party sponsored by Microsoft at the Jimi Hendrix museum last night and Cheryl Crow played, and that by wearing an Intel t-shirt today he won a digital camera. (Not sure what kind yet. Some lucky family member may get a nice Xmas pressie!) His research partner won $100. Apparently they have the Intel Prize Patrol and are giving away Nanos and laptops, too. There's something to be said for conferences sponsored by people with vaults of money to swim in. No conference I have ever attended even had free coffee.

I met with a VP of HR this afternoon as part of my parent activist activity, and she said, "Call me psychic, but I think you're going to get a call," about Casper getting into the child care center. Fuckfuckfuck. I hate making hard decisions. Okay, I hate making any decisions, but especially hard ones. Question: if you were the nanny and the other family, would you rather we made the decision ourselves and then told you (or never mentioned it if we decided to maintain the status quo) or would you rather be asked to have an emergency meeting to discuss? I can't imagine making this decision without discussing it with the nanny, since what she wants to do after next May 15 makes a big difference as to what we decide. Fuck. Fuck. Fuck.

Comments

[dxmachina.livejournal.com]

I think you should ask the nanny what her plans are. I don't think further discussion should include anyone but you and mr. flea. It's really no one else's decision, and any input from the nanny and (especially) the other family is going to be colored by what's best for them, not necessarily what's best for y'all.

[dxmachina.livejournal.com]

I should also note that the best tchotchke I ever got at a conference was an umbrella. It has constellations on it, but still, not a digital camera.

[richtermom.livejournal.com]

I'm really big on not burning bridges, so I'd probably check in with the Nanny on her plans, whether you decide to give her all your info or not. Even if you do the lighthearted checking-up-on-how-plans-are-going thing, feeling her out, then you could probably give her the heads up personally if its her input that makes or breaks the deal.

While I don't think you need to let the other famil(ies/y) know before the decision is made, I suppose getting ahold of them asap will make their lives nominally easier because of hving to find someone else to take up your "share" even temporarily.

Hey, cool conference. I think I was invited to a few nice dinners and I got a couple bookbags, but that was generally it.

[mearagrrl.livejournal.com]

Yeah, what others said--check with Nanny, then make the decision, THEN talk to other family.

[cashmerepett.livejournal.com]

I agree with everyone else. Good nannies are hard to find so you definitely want to check with her. I would then make the decision and inform the other family.

Also, DAMN, I want to go to a conference like that!

[orthoepy.livejournal.com]

i agree with the rest of the folks -- talk to the nanny, but don't give the other families the idea that they could change your mind, because that will be even worse than just hearing your decision.

Also, haven't the other families been much with the chopping and changing? I think you've been very patient with THEM!