ext_1483 ([identity profile] katie-m.livejournal.com) wrote in [personal profile] flea 2009-01-25 04:27 pm (UTC)

Do you think there's any hope for her to change?

My mother has, somewhat, but my mother listened to me when I told her how upsetting I sometimes found her giving me advice. I find that she and I can work a usually-harmonious middle ground where she still gives me some advice, me knowing that she's not saying "you are an idiot" but "I looooooooove you. Let me hellllllllllp you" and her knowing that she needs to make sure she's not pushing too much. I don't think that would work if I hadn't been able to have conversations with her where we put this particular conflict on the table clearly, though, and it doesn't really sound like you've had success with that with your mother.

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